Wrong Reasons not to have a Boudoir Session – Min Xu Photography

So you may have heard of boudoir photography before and perhaps you are not brave enough to have a photoshoot, and now you start listing all of the reasons why you will never be able to pick up the courage to have a boudoir session for yourself

And it’s time to address something super important that I witness all the time from different people by listening to their stories, seeing their eyes light up when they see their photos for the first time, enjoying their transformations from shy to blossoms to fully bloomed confident gals and so much more.

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"CONFIDENCE makes us beautiful and it comes from accepting yourself. The moment you accept yourself, it makes everything better."

At one point or another, we’ve all thought that we’re not pretty enough, not sexy enough, and not tall enough, so on and forth. But hey let’s debunk these excuses we love to tell ourselves.

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"I don't have time."

Yes. I definitely understand that. But here’s what you need to ask yourself: “When’s the last time you pampered yourself or did something just for you?” We all put time and energy into family, work and relationships around us, but always forget to connect with ourselves. A boudoir session is a way to re-connect, re-discover and celebrate yourself.

Imagine getting a look at your stunning photos knowing how gorgeous you are, how does that feel? There’s so much to do but so little time. Don’t let your day of self love get away! You NEED a day all about you! The unique boudoir experience and gorgeous photos are just the cherries on top of the “love yourself” sundae.

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"My body isn't where I want it to be."

I bet you’ve seen countless photos of pretty models with flawless skin, perfect curves and athletic bodies, and thought, “I can never do that.” It’s completely nerve-wracking but you can and should do it. Because here’s the thing, what you see on social media is not reality. NO-BODY is perfect. With the right angles, lighting and compositions, you will look stunning!

It’s good to get out of your comfort zone once in a while, allow yourself to be vulnerable and see yourself as others see you. Break down those stereotypes!  Let yourself feel sexy.

 As I mentioned, I photograph women of all ages. As your age increases, despite the fact that you may not be as toned or tight as you used to be – it honestly does not matter. The sooner you do your shoot, the longer you will have the photos to look back on. So, why wait? 

I will lead you through wardrobe options and lingeries that highlight your finest assets and record that fiery nerve that has only gotten more powerful with age – what a great way to see in a new decade, right? 

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So many of us take on roles like “mom”, “wife”, “husband”, “businessman/ woman” and we forget who we were before.  Here’s the heart of it: your shoot has to do with so much more than simply the shape of your body.  Every photographer’s duty is to make you comfortable so we can capture your authentic laugh, shimmering eyes, and all other features that make you “YOU”. 

Besides, expert positioning lighting, lens option, clothing options, as well as compositions will certainly make you sexier than you have ever thought possible. You are not defined by your dimensions, so do not allow them to stop you from realizing how wonderful you are. 

"I don’t have the confidence."

We all have lingering insecurities and doubts about our bodies when showing off. Unless you are a professional model, not a single woman enters into my studio feeling confident and sexy before their shoot. It’s not your job to get the confidence for the shoot – it’s my task to coach you and help boost your confidence. Take a look at this gal I worked with before and you will understand what I mean.

Most of my clients are just everyday women – they are your kids’ kindergarten teacher, your real estate agent, your local Woolie’s worker… They are no different from you. Let me help you bring out your inner goddess, show off your authentic self and see exactly how beautiful you are

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"I need to lose a few extra kilos."

This is the first reason I heard from women. Let me know how long you will wait to get that ideal weight? Ladies, you are so beautiful as you are today. If you  constantly put off the shoot because you feel you are not yet ready, you will never be ready. 

You need to pause a moment, look at these men and women of all shapes and sizes who have done a boudoir shoot, proud of their body types and figures and in love with the results in front of the camera. If they can do it, why can’t you? All you need to do is trust me as your professional photographer and take the leap. 

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. – Steve Maraboli

So Gorgeous! Now that your fear and insecurities are the unlimited reasons for you not to do anything outside of your comfort zone, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to give in to your fears or take a leap in loving yourself. After reading this blog, hopefully, you’re with us that you need no more excuses not to do a boudoir shoot. If you’re still on the fence, you might be inspired by this gal who shares her experience with us. Let us know your thoughts in the comments below. 

 If you’d like to discover more regarding doing a boudoir shoot, take a look at our website as well and give us a call. We would certainly like to help reveal your internal rockstar. 


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